Divorce & Domestic Violence Archives

Coping with Divorce

6 Ways Sports Combats Stress During A DivorceGoing through a divorce can drain the life out of you whether you have been married for two or twenty years. It can be one of the most stressful periods in a person's life. It is normal to feel helpless and alone, but how you choose to deal with the effects of a separation will make the whole difference.Many people turn to drugs or alcohol. However, these are only Band-Aid solutions. Engaging in sports and exercises can help you get through a terrible divorce. 1. Boosting your self-esteemAn ugly divorce has the potential to strip you of your self-worth. Becoming physically active and being part of a team will boost your self-esteem. Feeling confident in your abilities will make you think highly of yourself. On the other hand, being inactive for an extended period will lead to self-loathing, which will eventually escalate to depression.Those who exercise often are healthier and more physically fit. You can take advantage of your divorce to get into shape. Losing a couple of pounds or getting rid of that beer belly will help improve your self-confidence.When you achieve the targets that you have set, it improves your self-confidence and makes you feel positive about yourself. Through competition, you can discover your own potential to achieve more and thus set higher standards for yourself.2. Improving your moodWhether you engage in a solitary sport such as running or swimming or a group sport such as baseball or football, any form of physical activity stimulates the production of neurotransmitters referred to as endorphins. These brain chemicals are responsible for giving you the feeling referred to as "runner's high."According to a 2008 study published in the journal "Cerebral Cortex," elevated levels of endorphins bind with opioid receptors in the limbic and prefrontal areas of our brain thus causing the runner's high feeling. These are the parts responsible for positively changing your mood. The feel-good response triggered by endorphins helps to decrease symptoms of stress and tension.3. Improving the quality of sleepDivorce leads to stress which in turn interferes with your sleeping pattern. Lack of enough sleep leads to a vicious cycle since it adds on to your stress, making it even harder to shut your eyes the following night. Exercise helps to break the cycle in two ways:It assists you in handling stress and makes you feel exhausted ensuring that you sleep quickly without having to toss and turn all night. Sleep also helps to improve your sense of well-being. You tend to feel better the more sleep you get.4. Increased socializationSeparating from your partner makes you feel lonely. But the loneliness is compounded when you decide to alienate yourself from friends and family. You need to be around people during these tough times. Socializing through exercise helps to relieve stress by stimulating the release of the oxytocin hormone which promotes relaxation. Engaging in a sport will give you an opportunity to socialize and make new friends. Being around people with whom you share a common interest will motivate you thus helping to reduce anxiety and depression. Interacting with other human beings will enable you to get rid of the negativity associated with stress and anxiety.5. Works as a distractionParticipating in sports and exercises helps to divert your attention. You will forget your pain albeit temporarily and focus your mind and energy on the recreational activity at hand. Whether you are paddling your kayak or swinging your bat, your attention will be on your body movements and not your usual stress points. This distraction will work like some form of meditation.6. Releases tensionAccording to the American Council on Exercise, working out reduces the electrical activities recorded in tensed muscles. Researchers have also noticed a reduction in hyperactivity and jitters among individuals after exercising. Participating in sports and exercises will help relax your blood vessels and reduce your blood pressure and heart rate, which are often associated with worry.Your body responds to stressful situations through what is called the fight-or-flight response. That usually leads to a buildup of stress in the body. The best way to relieve this tension is to engage in exercises. The American Diabetes Association recommends participating in a sport such as bicycling or ballroom dancing.Don't just sit around and wallow in misery. Divorce is terrible, but you can get through it by choosing to be physically active. Participating in sports and exercises can lower your stress and anxiety, provoke socialization and help improve your self-esteem. However, take care not to over-exercise in the name of channeling your stress. It can put unnecessary burdens on your systems at a period when it needs all the resources available to manage your feelings.

Staying safe when domestic violence strikes

When you're the victim of physical domestic violence, experts note that there's nothing more important than making sure you're safe. The first thing you're advised to do when you think you're in danger is simply to call the police. They can help to put a stop to the violence, make an arrest if necessary, and gather evidence.

New hashtag aims to expose non-physical domestic violence

A new hashtag has been making the rounds lately on Twitter, and it is #MaybeHeDoesn'tHitYou. The point of the hashtag is to bring more light to the fact that a lot of domestic violence is not physical. While physical issues can sometimes be spotted--people are quick to notice a black eye--these other issues are often ignored because they're not as obvious to the public.

Tactics for proving you suffered non-physical abuse

For those who suffered domestic violence and physical abuse, finding proof may not be that hard. Bruises and lacerations could tell the whole story. Phone calls and medical records could back it up. However, what about people who suffer emotional abuse, financial abuse, psychological abuse, or something else that doesn't show up on the skin?

Get In Touch

Request a meeting today – we can help you resolve your legal concerns

Bold labels are required.

Contact Information

The use of the Internet or this form for communication with the firm or any individual member of the firm does not establish an attorney-client relationship. Confidential or time-sensitive information should not be sent through this form.


Privacy Policy

Avvo | Clients' Choice | 2016  | Family Avvo Rating | Excellent | Featured Attorney | Family