Identifying whether your case is a "high conflict" divorce can be surprisingly difficult. In most cases, there is some level of conflict in a divorce or parenting dispute. The question is whether a particular case has an abnormally high amount of conflict. Some examples of high conflict cases involve domestic violence, serious substance abuse, mental illness of a party, or a party that lives out of town or is seeking to relocate. On the opposite end of the spectrum are cases that are relatively amicable. Those can be resolved with little time, energy and expense.
Preplanning will often prevent disputes over parenting time (visitation) among divorced parents or parents who are separated. The following are some suggestions to minimize conflict and maximize quality parenting time.
On the surface your partner may seem perfect for you -- but dig a little deeper and you'll find that's definitely not the case. Below, experts share eight signs your Mr. or Ms. Right is all wrong for you and you may be headed for divorce or Mediation. 1. They roll their eyes at you. If they're doing it now, in public or in private, it's only going to get worse later on, said Marcia Naomi Berger, a psychotherapist. "In effect, a partner who behaves this way is being both disrespectful and disloyal," she said. "If your partner is annoyed with you, then looks to whoever else is in the room with a knowing glance to imply that you're being ridiculous, he's allying himself with the wrong person. Loyalty should lie first and foremost with each other, even when imperfections surface." 2. They're withdrawn from the start. "Does she vanish into the ether when you have a personal problem? Does he sulk and storm out of the room when you try to resolve a squabble? If so, then you're with the wrong person," she told HuffPost. "Chasing after someone who's emotionally unavailable will just make the other person feel smothered -- and withdraw further -- while you seethe with resentment." 3. They're too dependent. It's natural to want to spend every waking hour together in the beginning -- but if you want to keep things interesting and fresh, you need to have separate lives and identities, said Kristin Davin, a New York City-based psychologist. 4. They're attached to their cell phone. It may not be as bad as physically cheating, but choosing your smartphone over your partner is a form of cheating, said Marina Sbrochi, the author of Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the Love of Your Life. "What's missing is their presence," she said. "It's as if you can see your partner, but they don't see you and you aren't interacting with them. 5. They aren't straight with you about their plans for the future. The two of you should feel comfortable discussing the important questions in a relationship: If and how you'll raise the kids; how involved your families will be in your lives; your idea of budgeting. If your S.O. gets fidgety whenever you bring up the future, you may be in for a world of surprises as your connection deepens, Sborchi said. 6. They play the victim. Walk, don't run, if your new boo has a long list of grievances against everyone they've ever dated or been in a relationship with, Gilbert said. "It's worrisome if all his exes were 'crazy' or everyone close to him has let him down," she said. "If the person with whom you hope to spend the rest of your life blames all their problems on other people or circumstances, guess what's in store for you? An apocalyptic divorce and custody battle. 7. They're not on the same page as you financially. If you can't get it together financially, there's a good chance that you're not going to be together in the long run, Davin said. Studies have shown that financial problems are a main contributor to divorce. Mediation is a good alternative. 8. They stonewall you. Stonewalling occurs when one partner withdraws from the interaction or argument, closing themselves off to what the other has to say. If your S.O. walks away when you ask them to put the dishes away or go to a family get-together, expect more of the same later on, Berger said. If you need help with divorce or mediation, contact LASITER & JACKSON.
As it pertains to the law, mediation is a form of alternative dispute resolution (ADR), in which a neutral third party assists two or more parties in amicably negotiating a settlement. In recent time, more and more couples going through divorce have opted for the mediation route as opposed to the more traditional court setting.
Why is mediation a good idea?
To resolve issues in family law cases, different options such as litigation, mediation and alternative dispute resolution (settlement conferences) are available to the parties. Divorce Settlement Agreements, Mediation Often times, judges encourage efforts to resolve conflicts prior to setting a trial in the matter. Some Judges refer to "CART" as the reason you want to spend efforts to settle prior to trial. It is "Cheaper - paying lawyers to proceed to trial can be costly; it is alot of "Aggravation - it is very stressful for parties to appear before a judge and present their case; it is always involves "Risk for all parties involved - no one has a slam dunk case and risks a worse case scenario possibility; and it saves "Time - the Courts are very busy and it is often faster to reach resolution if you do not require the Courts time. Contact an attorney at Lasiter & Jackson to discuss out of Court ways in which you can resolve your case. The lawyers at Lasiter & Jackson not only represent you in litigation but conduct mediations and settlement conferences to resolve your issues in family law matters.
There are a growing number of interracial, inter-cultural and/or interfaith relationships in today's society which produces a diverse religious and cultural heritage for the children. However, when these interracial, inter-cultural or interfaith relationships end, each parent will likely want to continue to celebrate their respective traditions with their children. Consequently, child custody and visitation plans or agreements can rapidly become very complex. Traditional custody/visitation plans typically spell out the more common issues such as who has the children for certain holidays. Today's agreements, however, go far beyond just making arrangements for holidays and summer breaks.
The end of a marriage can be a difficult time for those involved. Trying to divide up a family and household can be painful. Having to go to court to do so may make the situation even worse. There are ways to settle a divorce outside the courtroom, including mediation. While not all couples can cooperate enough to avoid a court battle, there are some tips that those going through a divorce can follow to keep the matter out of court and saving time and money in the process.